Five's the big number.
Sight, smell, hearing, feel and taste.
I see her picture. I can smell her and it is the insistent awareness of a tigress concealed by the fragrance of cherry blossoms. Her whispers make my blood roar. I can feel the royal velvet luxury of her skin. I can taste the salty moistness in the hollow of her throat.
All that from the picture.
Does your writing have that power?
Does your writing engage your readers' senses?
I've talked to them and their answer is no. You try. They know you're trying. They appreciate it, really they do.
But you're so focused on he said she said that you forget they (your readers) have five sense, not one.
And you're so focused on he did she did that you forget that they (again, your readers) appreciate the visual plot sequence you've constructed, but, again, they have five senses, not one.
As a writer, you tend to think of only one thing at a time. Dialogue (hearing). Who did what (visual). More dialogue (hearing) and more visual (sight)?
Why? What happened to the other senses? Why did you forget to include them in your last story?
Because you ignore sex while you're writing.
Sex jams every sense you have into high gear. We know them all and they are euphorically overwhelming. We feel, we see, we hear, we taste and we drink in the smell of our lover.
Sex engages all your senses.
Why doesn't your writing?